Hello everyone! Welcome back to my quirky little corner of the web. Ugh, I am so over this cold weather! Like seriously mother nature it is March lets clear out the snow and bring up the temperatures please! Are you guys as over the weather as I am?
The weather may totally have my mood down right now, but today I want to share some life changes that I am going to be making to hopefully improve my quality of life. If you have followed me for awhile then you are already aware that have chronic migraines and fibromyalgia. Both of these have massively changed my life, and I have resisted that change as much as possible. However, there comes a time when you have to accept change, and that time for me is now because I can’t keep putting my body through so much misery. So if you are interested to hear about some big life changes coming my way then just keep on scrolling!
Change In Diet
One of the hardest things I will do is making key changes in my diet. My neurologist has always given me restrictions to follow, but to be honest I don’t follow those like I should. I know that my doctor is not wrong and that she wants me to follow diet restrictions for a reason. However, not listening to those restrictions is just one of many ways I have been fighting to hold on to who I was before I was sick. Starting now I want to hold myself to following not only her restrictions but also a few others because if I want to feel my best I have to do my best. Yes I do have chronic pain that will never go away, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try to reduce the symptoms and attacks.
The first change is to add more water into my day. My neurologist recommends at least the typical eight glasses a day which should not be hard to do. It sounds crazy but I get busy at work and I forget to drink all day. So my biggest challenge there is just remembering to drink it. I literally need a constant reminder, no joke! My next change is to completely cut out caffeine. I am a big coffee drinker so this one has not been easy. I do good for a few weeks, and then I have days like today where I am ironically drinking an iced coffee as I type this. I know it is bad for me, and I know it can easily trigger a migraine. Yet my craving for the caffeine wins anyways. That has to stop though because the migraines aren’t worth it.
Next, I am cutting out chocolate. Yes you read that correctly, I did say chocolate. I have done so much research about chronic pain and migraines just trying to find answers, and a lot of people cut chocolate from their diets. Now those who know me well know that chocolate is like one of the main food groups for me so this one is beyond difficult. However, research shows that chocolate can trigger a migraine. And at this point I am so desperate for relief that I willing to give up just about anything if it will help me feel better.
Lastly, on a broad scale I want to eat healthier in general. I used to eat fairly healthy, but the past year I have ate a lot of fast food. I remember a time in my life when I hated eating fast food, and now that is the norm for me. Moving forward I really want to change that and be more conscious of what I am putting into my body. My body is weak and the more junk I throw into it I am simply making it weaker. It is time I take better care of myself before I do damage that can’t be fixed.
Probably the most common piece of advice I come across when researching chronic pain is to reduce the stress in your life. Ironically this is also advice that my neurologist gave me when I first started seeing her too. The main problem, I think for everyone, is that stress is extremely hard to avoid. Life tends to be full of stressful moments.
Then you have me, an entirely different beast to tackle. I thrive in stressful situations. I do my best work under pressure. When I know there is a time crunch I usually perform much better at my job than when I know my time is unlimited. Put me in a room full of chaos, and I will thrive in getting everything back to organization. I don’t love stress, but I handle it well.
Therefore, it is not exactly easy for me to just reduce stress. I am by nature a workaholic. I will make myself so busy that I create stress because that is where I thrive. However, that is becoming increasingly unhealthy for me. While I may do a good job under stress it is almost always a guarantee that I will have a major migraine right after that which means a nightmare of an evening. When I get a migraine I can’t enjoy time with family or friends, and truthfully I can’t even enjoy an evening to myself because I am in so much pain.
Therefore, regardless of how well I thrive under stress I have to learn to reduce it in my life. I am unsure how to de-stress my life, but I know I have to do it if I want to live a life outside of my bed in pain. If any of you have suggestions for reducing stress please leave them in the comments! I am definitely going to be trying out different things to see what works best for me so I would love to know what has helped out some of my readers.
Getting Out More
This is a very important goal for me. I used to go out a lot whether it was shopping, to the movies, or my most favorite various hiking trails. However, then I got sicker and my pain got worse and worse. Then slowly over time I just quit doing things that required leaving my house. I always say I’m too sick, I’m too tired, and I just can’t do it anymore. To some extent that is true, I have my limits now that I can’t ignore. However, I don’t have to give up completely. I have been grieving the loss of this amazing life I had before I got sick, but the truth is I make it worse for myself.
Moving forward I want to find my balance. I don’t want to go out so much that I push my body past its limits because that defeats the point of all these changes. However, I do want to go out and be myself again. I am tired of being trapped inside these four walls! There has to be a balance where I am not doing too much, but I am also not giving up on myself.
Overall I want to change for the better. I have been miserable for so long, and that is no way to live. A wise person I look up to very much told me “Kayle, stop settling, if you don’t invest in you then who will?”. She couldn’t be more right. I have settled for being miserable. I’ve let my illness defeat me, and that is not who I am. It is time I take my life back, and fight for a life worth living. I keep waiting for someone else to find me the answers, but the truth is that only I will find them. Only I can make the changes necessary to feel better. At the end of the day I will always have a chronic illness, but I can either let that define me or I can be determined to enjoy every minute I’m blessed to be breathing. Some days the pain will be minor, some days the pain will be unbearable, but from this minute on I’m choosing to enjoy my precious minutes because I am not my illness.
Thank you so much for spending time with me in my quirky corner today! I appreciate it so much! I hope you enjoyed this post, and feel free to comment some of your recent life changes below! I’d love to hear from you! Have a lovely day everyone.